Is it normal to be attracted to other men when married

For example, exes are a frequent crush object for people, which could more reflect a longing for your younger, more carefree self than it reflects a desire to reconnect with the actual person you dated. You also might develop a crush to distract you from painful or unpleasant things in your life that have little or nothing to do with your partner. Hell, thinking about a crush is way better than worrying about financial stressors or disagreements about raising your kids. This exercise tends to shed light on the situation pretty quickly for people, Traube says.

You also need to be frank about the strength of your resolve. It may be time to try and get over the crush. Sign up for the Fatherly newsletter to get original articles and expert advice about parenting, fitness, gear, and more in your inbox every day. Please try again. This is especially common when other men start to give her attention and compliments that she never gets from her husband anymore. Feeling wanted again can be a very powerful emotion for someone in a long-term relationship.

If she spends her days alone and then she meets a new guy at work who starts to pay a lot of attention to her and makes her feel good in the same way her husband did when they first met, she might start questioning her marriage and might slowly become more comfortable with a new guy to the point where things become physical.

It is also much easier to give in to temptations when your husband is not around and you think that you can hide your affair.

Sometimes people drift away from each other and after a few years of marriage, they might realize that there is no attraction anymore.

Many couples still stay together for numerous reasons. Some do it for the kid while others are afraid to start over or be judged by their friends and relatives. Women in these loveless marriages often look at other men in their lives to satisfy their desire to be loved and wanted. Some married people cheat for the fear of missing out. The fear that she will never find out how it feels to date someone else besides her husband can make her consider having an affair with other men.

This might start with her flirting and going to coffees with other men but later it often turns into something much more physical. However, after they slept with other men most women stop the affair and continue living with their husbands. Some women just enjoy the chase and attention of men.

These are usually the women that are very friendly and flirt with every guy they meet. The total percentage of people who cheat is actually much higher, around 20 percent for both men and women, according to other research from Indiana University. In fact, many women said their feelings for the other guys even improved their relationships. Just know this: The more a woman fantasizes, the greater her sexual desire, says Mullinax. And a faithful wife who craves sex is nothing but good news for you.

Remember, 95 percent of these women never strayed. Other respondents said that thinking about being with another man reminded them of why they were with their partner.

It all depends on what works for you. Talk about it. Telling your partner about your crushes can make them less of a threat, says Mullinax. And that defused everything. Being able to treat lustful feelings toward someone else like a goof is healthy and nonthreatening. We'd been hanging out a lot together—coffee, a few drinks that led to some flirting, which led to some vivid fantasies.

I took this as a danger sign and told him that I felt it was better to keep our relationship strictly about the campaign. He is married, too, and agreed with me it's better not to tempt fate. Within a few weeks the butterflies settled down and things went back to normal.

It was a distraction from the sorrow I felt over my mother's cancer diagnosis. So I didn't take it seriously, and it subsided. But I did talk to my husband about the two of us making time for some fun things to do together so that our life didn't become solely about tragedy. Not that I look like a supermodel.

So I do occasionally get the hots for some random really hot guy. And then I'll fantasize about said hot guy while my honey and I have sex. And then the crush fades, and all is good.